I loved the show tonight! I think your so inspiring and real. I wish you and your family happiness and success!
Just wanted to reach out to you and tell you how saddened I am for you and your family having to deal with the antics of your mother. In addition, it is bad enough you have to handle this heart wrenching situation at all, let alone having it so public. I realize that is what you signed up for but still it must be very difficult.
The reason I was so compelled to contact you is that I saw your recent episode where you recited a response from a viewer scolding you for your behavior at your wedding with regards to kicking out your mother.
Personally, I found your mother's behavior appalling and disrespectful as I did most of her behavior throughout the season. I believe that, we the viewers, only saw a snippet of her treatment towards you and that has to be taken into account for those critics. It was painfully clear to me that this woman has been behaving in this matter, probably for the majority of your life.
Unfortunately, I viewed your relationship as if I was looking into a mirror. I have had a painful and difficult relationship with my mother for years. It was a struggle just to get her to look at me as her daughter who she was suppose to love and treasure.
I had to come to a place of understanding that I will NEVER receive love and kindness from this woman the way I want it. Once I determined that I was, on some level, able to accept whatever she was able to give me and discard the rest some peace was felt in my heart.
I lost my mother last Mother's Day and I miss her everyday but honestly not the hatred, abuse and neglect. What is most painful is the not knowing why I was so unlovable to her; that answer will never come. My peace of mind comes with the knowledge that I can truly look myself in the mirror and know that I honestly did everything I could do to build bridges between our hearts up until the day she died.
My suggestion to you is that always make sure you can say the same thing, because when she is gone there is no turning back and fixing it.
If you can say that and believe that in your heart of hearts that there is still no loving common ground, removing yourself from the situation will be the healthiest decision for both you and your children.
In closing, for those who are so critical of the situation, I say, "just because this woman gave birth to you, it does give her the right to abuse you nor does it give her an infinite "pass". Bad behavior is just that no matter who is doing it. Would these critics allow these kind a malicious attacks from a stranger? Don't they understand the fact it is coming from your mother, the one who is suppose to love you no matter what, makes it even more painful?
I truly hope you receive my message with the kindness and understanding I intend. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and will hold onto to the hope that this can turnaround in a positive way.